People can be horrible...

I was reading some of the horrible comments made by people about Michael Kingsbury and just wanted to say this… My son wandered. My son died. I have no doubts that a seven year old child could disappear in seconds and I also have absolutely no doubts that he could easily get into a car and then have no comprehension that he was in danger. I could easily see a severely autistic child simply fading away in the heat, unable to understand the perils of the heat. He never would have felt panic, he wouldn’t have responded to people yelling his name. Autistic children have compulsive fascinations. Normally it is water, but it can truly be anything. A place, a sign, repetitive things like railroad tracks, or even a car. He probably got in the car because he wanted to go somewhere. He probably associated cars with pleasant trips, and was unable to understand that only certain cars took him certain places. He got into that car expecting to go somewhere. He died waiting to go to that place. You have to understand autism. There is absolutely no danger awareness. An autistic child can be drowning and will walk INTO the water instead of backing out of it like a normal child. It takes ONE SECOND of inattention. It isn’t neglect or lack of love. It is simple human failing. We go to the bathroom, our child is gone, we let someone else babysit while we work to pay the bills, our child is gone, we turn to fill their cup with juice, our child is gone, we tend to another child, our child is gone. It is horrific, it is a terrible fear of every parent with an autistic child and it happens constantly. Not every story is a tragedy, but enough of them are for us as a society to recognize that wandering is a part of autism. Go to my site, look at the SEVENTY children lost to wandering in the last three years. They were loved, they were treasured, they wandered, they died and they left families that were crushed and devastated behind. For those of you that don’t understand autism and have no way to comprehend wandering, keep your mouths shut and let this family grieve.

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